There is literature that proves that humanity is biologically mandated towards empathy. Everything else (like the urge to power) is a learned behaviour that results from, (particularly in childhood care):
1. things that should happen that don’t
2. things that shouldn’t happen that do
This ranges from ‘so-called’ privileged public school boys whose lives are devoid of empathy & nurture to slum kids who are born with the ‘worst possible of hands’. There are axiomatic dynamics to be discovered. If anyone is interested there are many people spearheading this tremendous work and they need not be ‘spiritual’ but they must and are all psychological in their approach.
Without self-empathy there is no empathy and therefore no relationship; and without relationship all action, no matter how well intentioned, leads to conflict.